A few months ago, our younger sister experienced a weekend of volunteering with Un Techo Para Mi Pais (UTPMP) on the coast of Ecuador, and along with pictures and stories, the project came highly recommended. Erin also informed us via email that the South American NGO was hosting meetings in Cuenca to gather volunteers for a project in not-so-nearby Ambato. After some research, I asked Gareth, Tracy and my girlfriend, Maria, if they wanted to spend the 3-day holiday weekend doing something a bit out of the norm: building houses high up in the Andean mountains. We all happily, yet wearily confirmed, paid our fees ($25 per person) and curiously imagined what exactly we signed up for. And to put it lightly, we hadn’t a clue what we were getting ourselves into.
Drawing quite a bit of curious looks and stares, with borrowed sleeping bags, lightly packed packs, and some snacks for the weekend, we climbed onto the bus at 11:00pm, Thursday night, with our fellow (Cuencano) volunteers. The overnight bus would wind us through foggy mountain range after mountain range, for 8 hours, until we reached a small farming village just outside of Ambato proper.
Day 1
At 7am in the morning, with very little restless sleep, we arrived at our accommodations and make-shift headquarters for the weekend: a local elementary school. We were to mark our sleeping territory on the dirty, hardwood floor of one of many classroom that had been cleared out in anticipation of our arrival. The buses kept pouring in, bringing volunteers from every corner of Ecuador. There would be no rest time, though, as coffee and bread was being served, nourishment for the long day’s work that lie ahead.
With next to no sleep, even less food, and the crisp, foggy morning air, we were hurdled into a large mass of people where team leaders were assigned and groups were divided. With about 80 volunteers, 10 people per group would be building 8 houses for 8 different families over the next 2.5 days. After some finagling, Tracy and Gareth were placed together, as well as Maria and I, but our respective pairs were indeed separated, meaning we would not be swinging hammers together. After some pep talks and moral-boosting activities, groups were rushed off to pick-up trucks to head out to their sites.
Oddly, our family that had originally accepted the gift of a new house, had had a change of heart and decided they didn’t want/need it any more. This meant that we’d have to haul all of the previously placed building materials to a new site. And moving an entire house’s worth of lumber isn’t exactly a small feat. In fact, it took the better part of the morning to lift and transfer it all. I found myself already wiped out before we had begun to do anything towards our goal.
Our Family
The directors made a few phone calls, we drove around in circles, it was raining and freezing cold. Apparently there was another family that was considering a new home, but it hadn’t quite been confirmed soon enough. But with this new opportunity that had arisen, the mother accepted the offer and we set out to meet them and choose a nice spot on their land. We were told beforehand that the owner of the land is a mother of 8, many of which are from different fathers. We were also told that she had severe deformation of the face, and that she is quite nervous about our arrival due to her insecurities, and that we should be conscientious of this. Lastly, we were informed that due to her having mothered so many children from different men, she was all but shunned from her indigenous community, creating even more hardships for her and her family. This was obviously going to be quite a harsh situation we would be encountering.
Walking up steep, uneven farmland trails, we were finally introduced to the mother who carefully covered her face with scarves as she introduced herself and some of her children. We would later learn (and see) that the family of 9 shared two brick shacks with tin roofs, dirt floors, and no running water. Like many impoverished communities, they’ve managed to rig up electricity lines from the main roads, providing them with a single light and an extra outlet or a TV. Each habitation had a large bed in it, meaning that the family of 9 split the beds, 5 on one, 4 on the other. Other than beds, one encolosure had a gas burning stove that hooked up to refillable propane tanks, and a both small place in the corner for a fire, which is used to heat water and for warmth throughout the night. But with fire comes smoke, and with not chimney system, the shacks were incredibly smoky.
Work Begins
While the other groups were well on their way to setting up their house’s foundation, we were hacking down weeds and trees, loosening up dirt and leveling land. Furthermore, the chosen plot was up a few tiers from the road, meaning we had to carry extremely heavy lumber (pre-assembled walls and floors) up rough terrain, both the land and weight offering painstakingly awkward positions.
We worked until sundown, digging and cutting holes for the pillars and desperately trying to get them all even and leveled. With little skills and even worse materials from which to work with, I soon realized that even the slightest of tasks would require hard work and an abundance of patience. Our goal completed, the pillars were set and evened, high fives were had, photos were snapped, and tools were gathered. The carrying, lifting, digging and pounding had me exhausted beyond belief, though, and knowing a full day’s work was ahead of me, the pending soreness that would be arriving in the morning had me nothing short of frightened.
Despite the cold and rain, back at the school UTPMP insisted on rallying the troops for more moral-boosters, which were hardly that, since most of us just wanted to eat and sleep. After finally eating and sharing our respective stories from the day, we quickly learned that there were many people there that didn’t really come to work and catch a bit of sleep. This was like summer camp for them. Young university classmates came in groups, experienced with this project, and they were out to make the best of being away from momy and dady. There was no distinct “quiet time” and “party time” for them. Without a drop of alcohol, these kids were bouncing off the walls, singing, danicng, rallying troops, recruiting people for their games and make-shift karoake sing-offs. And while it is nice to see young people spending their weekend to help those less fortunate, their spirit was a bit overbearing at times. Furthermore, some of the younger and more immature (disrespectful) of the crowd, decided to stay up an hour or so after lights-out, chatting, joking, and lauging away the night, blatently ignoring the slew of “shushes” and “silencio por favors” coming from their fellow volunteers. And after the day’s work, when you’re stretched out over a cold, hard floor with no padding under your bag, dealing with this was nothing short of misery. I was having fantasies of pouring ice cold buckets of water all over them and their bags.
Day 2
Early rise, on again, little to no sleep and with dreadfully sore muscles, I pulled on my soaking wet, muddy running shoes, and hoped that the rain would let up, as I hadn’t many extra socks, nor did I have nice work boots. Coffee and bread was served and we climbed into the back of trucks for the wet and crisp ride to the construction site. Our goal for the day was to place the floor and erect the walls. The former went much smoother than the latter, as all that hard work to keep things level is tested as the walls rise. And when a bunch of amatures are working with rain-soaked wood, rain-saturated Earth and ancient tools, alignment is sure to fail. After some seriously crafty and resourceful handywork, the walls started to look flush, and finalizing nails were pounded into the floor. Lunch was served: rice and tuna — which were provided by the organization and prepared by Maria and our other team member in our family’s house — was especially delicious because our family offered us some potatoes. The small TV offered a blurry reception of the Champions League final game, a huge deal in Ecuador due to an Ecuadorian native that starts on Manchester United. How odd it seemed to be seeing aerial shots of the immaculate Wembly stadium, holding the world’s elite, from this tiny shack in the Andean Mountain ranges. Sitting on a dirt floor, hunched over my rice and tuna, I was trying to fathom how many people paid more for their prime seats to this game than this mother would ever make in her lifetime.
After lunch, we again worked until sundown, starting the preliminary necessities to place the techo (roof) the next and final day. Without ladders, scaling the walls and hammering in awkward positions proved to be quite the dangerous and tiring feat. With time and patience we made good progress and felt we were set up nicely for wrapping things up the following morning.
As night fell on Day 2, it left me feeling equal parts motivated and defeated. All of my clothes were officially wet and there was no chance of them drying overnight. My feet were blistered and sore, hands cut up, and muscles useless. I was completely spent, and had nothing to look foward to but a sleeping bag on hard floors, with an inescapably noisy atmosphere and working in wet socks and clothes the next day. To drive moral down a bit further, the bathrooms were clogged, overflowing and in a state where you wouldn’t want to even come near them, let alone use them. Over 80 people with unfunctioning toilets. Number one could be done outside, number 2 was unthinkable.
But what makes experiences like these worthwhile is thier ability to help put things in perspective. Sure, we all get used to our cozy lives and we have legitimate concerns and complaints relative to them, but in the big picture, the vast majority of people couldn’t begin to understand the hardships these families, and people living in extreme poverty all over the world, endure. And participating in this project offered the uniqueness of enduring hardships that you’ve never dealt with before, while simultaneously seeing hardships that are far worse. It was as if we were made to experience a weekend in the family’s shoes, only our situation was a step up, and 72 hours later we’d return back to the developed world. Keeping these thoughts in constant mind and knowing we only had a roof to hammer on the next day, I was able to conjure up the motivation to stay (mostly) positive despite the abundance of annoyances and inconveniences. Another restless night, dreaming of no rain, no rain, no rain.
Day 3
The morning was misty, but showed signs of possible clearing. Maybe we would be blessed with a nicer day? Coffee and bread was quickly had, and the organizers tried mostly in vain to organize the troops for a last-day motivational speech. People finally gathered and a pep-rally ensued, reminding us why we were there and how to appropriately finish the job.
Midway through the roof setting and nailing project, the family brought us a bag of bread and hot herbal tea. Considering how little they have, it was a really sweet gesture, and thanking them, we happily took a short break. One person breaking with us was Juan, the oldest son of the children, who looked to be about 19. He was right in the mix throughout the project, constantly surprising and puting us to shame with his sheer strength. The kid could saw through anything twice as fast as the strongest of us, chuckling and blushing when we made remarks about his strength. The older daughters seemed to spend most of their day in the fields or tending to their youngest siblings, coming around to curiously check out the progress or give a hand with a small task. The mother was never too far off, doing what she could to help us between tending to her fields and family, but mentally, she always seemed a bit distant, insecure and shy.
With warmer weather and very little rain, the alignment and nailing of the tin metal roof and attachment of the doors and windows proved to be mostly painless, and before lunchtime, we finished with plenty of time to arrange the opening ceremonies for the family. UTFMP really proved themselves to be a standup organization with the attention to detail they provide for those whom they serve. We were given a bag, complete with a mini-piñata full of candy, some ribbon, confetti, balloons, and a lock/key for the front door. The inside was swept out and decorations hung. With all in place, the lot cleaned up, and a ribbon on the front door, the family was invited to come for the celebration. Standing in front of the house, our group leader explained to her that we “are simply people with a few more opportunities and we want to help those with a few less.” He went on for a bit longer, and as he choked up a bit, the rest of us did too. And as we watched the mother, as if wanting us to see fully her emotions, she lowered her scarves, untied the ribbon and unlocked the door with tears streaming down her face.
We rushed the children into the house where we made a circle, clapping, dancing, throwing confetti and helping the children with the piñata. The children all gave us a hug, and the mother made her rounds as well. She looked me in the eye and thanked me, and through my broken Spanish I said, “it was a pleasure, good luck to you and your family, from me and my country.”
For me, I couldn’t help but think that the mother’s willingness to hug, thank and pose for pictures with us without her scarves covering her deformities, symbolized a barrier between two very different worlds, had indeed, been broken.
If you have been inspired by this blog, I encourage you to donate to UTPMP on their website, or stay up to date with future volunteer opportunities on their Facebook page.